feb 2020

ahhh what a month what a month.

First thing's first, finished the book on body language. ("definitive body language") or something like that and I guess it has been a tad useful. Though highly subjective, I realize i do see it quite often in real life. I cannot remember every single detail of course but just going to list them out in rough point form just for my own good

-Smiles. look out for the sincerity of a smile from the eyes and not the mouth
-Hands. Showing your palms our reflect sincerity whereas not showing them reveal a lack thereof
-Eye gestures. to look at someone sociably, focus on the triangle of his eyes and nose. To reflect superiority look at his forehead. to be flirtatious, look at his eyes and linger down in a sweeping motion. look at HER eyes oops
-Arms closed reveal lack in confidence. this can be in the form of crossed arms, or just doing small actions like adjusting glasses, fixing cufflinks. closed arms also reflect lack of buying into ideas.
-Legs and body reveal true intentions. People turning their bodies and legs towards other directions are a vital sign to what they are thinking about a situation. at the same time, hooked legs reveal a closed mindset
-Signs of deceit include touching their mouths. getting hot literally, causing them to fix their collars etc.
-perfect height for male female rs is 1.09m LOL.
-Height is a factor to express yourself. to shrink yourself in a situation you are wrong by lowering your head and showing your hands could get you into less trouble. Also, in a meeting, you can find a reason to stand up and walkaway and comeback and make a point while standing up still to bring your point across.
- sitting positions in a table are also important. sitting opposite takes a combative stance, directly beside is more intimate, while two sides of a corner is a perfect working space.

and so on and so forth. Just glad that I can actually recall so much on such short notice of typing this post.

Well Feb itself was... a month of some small changes I guess. mainly, me finally finding the balls to resign from PACE and of course, the good news that Linkedin made me an offer. So that was good. among other things this month, I feel this month's main lesson (yes im trying to make a main lesson a month now) is ... that someone will always be unhappy, its impossible to make everyone happy. ok this part is a given, but now for.. more. Its that happiness is subjective and that firstly, its already impossible to make everyone happy, and secondly, we shouldnt try to make people happy BY OUR DEFINITION. and only when I came across this revelation did I realize how so much unhappiness is caused by people trying to make each other happy in their own thoughts and ways. Including myself with friends, friend. My parents, imposing theirs on me. My parents yet again, imposing on each other. friend imposing on me. There's so much. and Third part of this lesson, I feel is, to have active communication about the meaning of happiness to the ones you are close with and to not let shit hit the fan first.

1. Its impossible to make everyone happy, someone will ALWAYS be unhappy
2. Happiness is a matter of definition, do think of it even as you try to make others happy
3. Active communication on the meaning of happiness with your loved ones. Not only when shit hit the fan.

For example. me wanting financial freedom, moving out will make me happy. but my parents........... definitely not so.